Insecurities are one of those things that can hold you back and make you feel uncomfortable in certain situations. I’ve dealt with mine for a long time and gone through a lot of stages of being insecure. I was too pale, too short, my boobs weren’t big enough, my hair was a weird colour, I wasn’t creative enough, my voice sounded weird and my eyebrows basically disappeared in the light.
A lot of insecurities can go away over time, but I think it’s important to stop learning how to ‘deal’ with them, and figure out how you can overcome them instead. So, here’s the ways I overcame my insecurities…
Ignore Anyone That Tells You There’s Something ‘Wrong’ With You, They’re Idiots
The people back in school who used to make fun of me and call me ginger like it was a bad thing and say I had no boobs were the reasons my insecurities started. They put you down because they’re immature and it makes them feel better about themselves somehow. Their opinions are wrong.
It’s only when I got to university that everyone was actually mature enough to not pick each others so-called ‘flaws’ apart. Anyone that says something negative about you is just trying to get a reaction out of you, don’t let them get one, they don’t deserve it.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People
…Especially people on social media. Everyone on social media edits their pictures so much to try and appear ‘perfect’ and that’s not what they look like in real life at all. We all have apps that make us look airbrushed and 1000 filters to make the photos ‘Insta-worthy’. I’m guilty of it myself and it’s easy to forget that Instagram doesn’t reflect reality.
Comparing yourself to someone else just makes you feel 10x worse if you don’t look exactly like them. We’re all different for a reason and being different definitely isn’t a bad thing! I know a lot of people say it but looking at other people and wishing you could look like them just destroys your self-esteem. So, try focusing on yourself instead of the people around you instead!
Stop Judging Yourself
You’re your worst critic. Once you stop judging the way you look and wishing you could change things about yourself, the insecurities will become so much less significant. We often judge ourselves way more than other people ever do and we need to start loving ourselves a bit more for who we are.
I admit that I’ve sometimes looked at myself in the mirror and not liked some of the things in the reflection but it’s about learning to not over-analyse every last detail about yourself, there’s no such thing as perfect, so stop trying to achieve it!
A bit of self-love is always needed, so stop waiting for someone else to compliment you and give yourself some positivity. Your mood shouldn’t be affected by what other people think of you, it should be yourself who’s in control of the way you feel about yourself. Wake up and push any negative thoughts away and only let you tell yourself the positive ones.
Realise They’re Not Imperfections
One of the biggest hurdles to overcoming anything you’re insecure about is to realise that these things you don’t like about yourself are not imperfections, they are what makes you, you.
Just because you don’t like them at that time doesn’t mean someone else isn’t looking at you right now and wishing they had that one thing you’re insecure about. Every detail that makes up you is something you should be proud and hold your head high about, nothing about you is an imperfection.
Surround Yourself with The Right People
We all need those types of friends that give you a confidence boost when you’re feeling a bit rubbish one day or tell you to go for it when you try a new hairstyle or something you’re worried about. We should only surround ourselves with people that make us feel happy and bring positivity into our lives.
You’re Not on Your Own
Everyone else is feeling exactly the same as you do. Look around, there are thousands of people who are insecure about something you find amazing and people who don’t like something that you think is beautiful.
We’re all trying to become the best version of ourselves that we can be and I think it’s sometimes easy to forget that you’re not the only one feeling this way.
Embrace Your Insecurities
I know it’s hard, and I’m still working to accept all of mine too but I’m a lot less insecure than I used to be. Your insecurities might seem silly or small to other people, but for you they could be a major thing that’s holding you back from being confident and happy within yourself.
It’s not going to happen overnight, but one way or another, you will get to a point where you can look back and wonder why you were ever worried about these things you don’t like now. For me, a few of my past insecurities are actually some of my favourite things about myself now! So with a bit of patience and a lot of self-love, overcoming your insecurities will happen.
What are your best tips to overcome your insecurities?
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