Does Makeup Destroy Our Confidence?

When we put on makeup, think about what we’re actually doing. We’re picking ourselves apart and finding ‘imperfections’ to cover up with concealer. We point out the things we don’t like about our skin and hide them beneath a layer of foundation or a swipe of mascara. We’re only looking at the negatives of our reflection that we want to change.

Don’t get me wrong, I love makeup. I love how you can enhance your features and create art in any way you want through your makeup. I admit that I spend way too much money buying new products (especially eyeshadow palettes) and I probably wear it more than I should because it’s got to the point where I don’t feel as comfortable without it.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

Putting on makeup makes us feel more confident which I always thought was a good thing. But does that mean that makeup has actually destroyed our self-esteem since some people no longer feel as good when they’re not wearing it?

A lot of us wear makeup so regularly that when we’re not, we feel strange and not as comfortable in our own skin. Most of us started wearing makeup at school and it became something we did every morning. It gets so ingrained into our everyday routine that we just don’t think to not do it.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

It’s so easy to get into the habit of wearing it every day and we don’t realise how much it affects us until we are in a position where we go out without any makeup on. It starts to feel strange when you’re not wearing makeup and we find ourselves making less eye contact with people because we just don’t feel as comfortable or like ourselves.

It got to the stage where I didn’t go out of the house without makeup on because I’d feel like people were looking at my skin. If I ever did go out without makeup, I’d feel so self-conscious and aware that there was nothing enhancing my face or hiding my ‘imperfections’.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

For me, my face can go really red when I’m too warm, embarrassed, feel like I’m put on the spot or even from just thinking about the fact that I don’t want to go red. This is one of the reasons I became so dependent on foundation because it meant that I didn’t have to worry about the part of my skin that I didn’t like.

Along with the dark circles under my eyes, a few spots here and there and oily skin that only powder can tame, I suddenly felt like I needed makeup all the time. It was a comfort blanket for me and a lot of other people, a sort of mask to make myself look the way I wanted to.

Not everyone, but a lot of people and myself included can feel insecure without makeup because we’re so attached to it.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

I spoke about insecurities in my 8 Steps to Overcome Your Insecurities blog post, and it’s a similar situation here. We look into a mirror and stare at our reflection but only see the bad things that we want to change with makeup. I’m not saying that makeup is a bad thing at all because I enjoy doing it and I love trying new things and experimenting, but it has damaged my self-esteem in a way.

I’m trying to remind myself to not wear makeup all the time, like if I’m just going to the supermarket or to the library, but I look at the people that go to lectures and out with their friends with no makeup on and are completely confident and I’m still not at that point.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

For the people that never wore makeup and don’t see the fascination with it, they feel so much more comfortable in their own skin than a lot of us who are so used to applying makeup each morning.

I think more of us need to remind ourselves that we don’t need makeup to look good and to feel better within ourselves. The more we push ourselves to go out without it, the more we won’t rely on it and we will start to get used to how we look without makeup on and actually like it just as much as with makeup.

Your spots, scars, birthmarks, moles, discolouration and dark circles won’t be something you need to cover up and pretend that they aren’t there anymore. The more we let go of needing makeup, the more we will realise that those things are a part of what makes us different from the person standing next to us. Okay, so that sounded very cheesy but you get what I mean.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

I will still wear makeup when I feel like it and want to try out the newest eyeshadow palette or whatever, but I’m no longer going to feel the need to wear it every time I step out of my house. I don’t want people to only see me when I’m covered in layers of makeup and I really want to get over the embarrassment I had with going out bare faced. It has started to help, and I hope will continue to help make me comfortable in my own skin again without the need for makeup.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

We sometimes feel this pressure to wear makeup all the time because it seems like everyone else does, but wouldn’t it be nice to be able to just let your skin breathe and go out without it some days and not feel any different?

Not only is it better for your skin since most makeup clogs up your pores, but it will help us to get used to our natural self and actually boost our confidence again. Makeup is such a powerful tool and doing this will turn makeup back into something to do because we enjoy doing it and not because we feel like we need it.

does makeup destroy your confidence?

How do you feel about makeup? Do you wear it all the time or do you still give yourself days without makeup so you can embrace your skin without it?

Beth x

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13 Comments

  1. September 1, 2018 / 11:01 am

    I never have worn makeup everyday just because of effort but I always used to wear it every day I wasn’t in school whether I was going out or not. But recently, I literally haven’t put makeup on even once a week. I just don’t see the point if I’m not doing anything or just because who cares, I wanna go bare faced so I will! But I totally understand how it can destroy your confidence as well, I think it is all about balance. Makeup is such a beautiful art as long as your happy to go bare face too! Xx

    • September 1, 2018 / 11:20 am

      Yeah exactly, and I need to start wearing it less so I become more comfortable again! xx

  2. September 3, 2018 / 8:43 am

    I made a conscious effort last year/the beginning of this year to start getting comfortable in living my daily life without makeup (I actually have none on as I type this!). I switched to focusing on my skincare instead to give me that boost of confidence, and just started dropping items out of my makeup routine until I went out with nothing at all. Now, I only wear makeup when I choose to wear it because I want to, not because I feel like I have to!

    Cordelia || cordeliamoor.com

    • September 3, 2018 / 8:04 pm

      Exactly, I’ve done the same. I’ve worked harder to get clearer skin so now I’m way more comfortable without makeup. It makes such a difference and is so nice to not feel like we have to wear it all the time!

  3. September 3, 2018 / 7:33 pm

    I completely relate to this. When I was in school and college, I didn’t even like going to the supermarket without something covering my skin. Now, it is rare if i wear much at all unless it’s for a special occasion, and that has definitely helped me accept my skin for what it is. Great post!

    Paige x
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    • September 3, 2018 / 8:13 pm

      Thank you! Yeah me too, it’s so bad how attached we all get to makeup, I still don’t feel as comfortable without it!

  4. September 3, 2018 / 8:10 pm

    I completely relate to this! I don’t wear makeup every day (because sometimes I’d prefer a lie in before college) but I do most days because I’m so self conscious about my skin, even though I’m sure no one actually notices or cares! Also my eyebrows are a big thing for me, because I look thirteen without them lol

    • September 3, 2018 / 8:16 pm

      Me too, the older I get the more important sleep becomes over makeup😂

  5. Macey Gloria
    September 5, 2018 / 3:23 am

    Loved this, I used to be so insecure about my dark under-eye circles and marks left from acne, but I’ve transformed that into a desire to take better care of myself so that I can lessen those blemishes. Rather than be wrapped up with constantly covering them up, I’m focusing on getting more rest, eating better, etc. That way I can actually take care of the cause of the problem!
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  6. Liz
    September 6, 2018 / 7:33 am

    I was talking about this with my boyfriend the other week! 2 years ago or so I would never leave the house without makeup on – even just to nip to the corner shop, I used to hate myself without makeup on. Fast forward 2 years and I wear it about once a month! I think the hot summer has helped as I was always too warm to apply makeup but also realising that I like sleep too much haha! I love not wearing it and do go most days without wearing any but it’s also made me fall out of love with makeup and I hate that! I like not wearing makeup and I’m 100% happy not wearing makeup but I also want to wear makeup, I want to do new looks and try new products but we’ll see! Great post though, I loved reading it!

    Liz x

    • September 6, 2018 / 9:43 am

      Yeah exactly- me too! I still wear it more than I need to but no where near as much as a few years ago. Hopefully once you try some new products and fall in love with them then you’ll start to like makeup more again even though you don’t need to wear it as often! Thank you! x

  7. September 16, 2018 / 10:23 am

    This is a really interesting concept that I haven’t really put much thought into so thank you for talking about it and sharing your views on it. I never wore make up through school because it never really interested me and I much preferred getting more sleep than getting up earlier to put on some make up but I could see the fascination with it. When I was about 18 I started to watch YouTube and stumbled across the beauty community and I could see why people loved the art of makeup and I started to buy some products too. This wasn’t because I was self conscious or because I wanted to hide anything I just wanted to play with make up and see what I could do with it. Granted it did make me feel confident but I wouldn’t say it made me want to wear it all of the time. I think of make up enhancing my features so for example I have blue eyes so I use orange toned eyeshadows to enhance the blue. It is an interesting thing to think about though. You wrote this really well, thank you for the food for thought x

  8. September 26, 2018 / 5:15 pm

    Hello Beth 🙂 I love the photos in this post! They are so beautiful! I agree with you about not wearing make up sometimes, I try not to wear make up at the weekend to allow myself to see and become comfortable with my natural face 🙂

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